Like peace in the Middle East, I wasn’t sure making it to our one year wedding anniversary was possible. But Chief Money Maker and I did it against all possible odds—and I’m richer today for it. No really, I am. I just cashed in my bet with the Tunica bookies. I always bet the long shot. Let’s get real. Who would have thought that two Leos, both previously married, living in a house with five crumb snatchers and three dogs would have a marriage that lasted longer than Kim Kardashian’s?
A few of you reading this might have laid down some bets on our marriage too. Don’t pretend like it doesn’t happen. We’ve all been there. The violinist is softly playing, the usher lights the candles, the groom walks in looking like a man taking a death row walk, and the bridal march begins to play. As she reaches the alter, the bride and groom gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes and you lean over to the person next to you and say, “I give it six months.”
You might ask what is the key to our long-lasting marital bliss? Well, it’s a combination of things: good communication, unconditional love, and the threat of making good on the life insurance policy. When Chief Money Maker asked for my hand in marriage, I said yes (obviously) but I gave him this full disclosure. With love brimming over from the depths of my soul, I looked deep into his eyes and said, “I will marry you, but remember this. I won’t be divorced again. I don’t mind being a widow, but I won’t be divorced.” He’s either the bravest man on this planet, or his driveway doesn’t go all the way to the street, if ya know what I mean.
Our anniversary was ushered in without much fanfare, and we closed the night while sipping champagne on our patio. We reflected on the events of the last year. Another key to a successful marriage is to always examine where you’ve been and where you would like to go. He talked about his career success over the past year, how he’d learned what it means to have a daughter, and how he felt he could improve as a husband. I told him I wanted to go to Hawaii. I love champagne.
I also love my anniversary gift. The anniversary gift tradition goes back hundreds, maybe even millions of years. Once upon a time, some poor cavehusband screwed up big time. He stormed out of the cave and sat at the tavern drinking all night with his cavebuddies. After listening to them complain about how their cavewives never swept the dirt floors, never picked the nits out of the cavekids hair, and couldn’t fry a dinosaur egg on a rock, he decided he didn’t have it so bad. He went out and found a shiny gold rock in the creek bed and brought it home for his wife as an apology. It just happened to coincide with their wedding date, so the wedding anniversary gift tradition was born. I don’t really know if that’s true, but it certainly sounds plausible.
Anyway, the traditional first anniversary gift is paper. Because Chief Money Maker loves me—and because he fears gettin’ dead—he gave me a signed contract for a swimming pool in our backyard. My paper gift to him? A signed check for the deposit—from his account, of course. Ahhh, love is bliss.
I will leave you today with one of Chief Money Maker’s favorite toasts—which Wolfy delivered perfectly at our wedding. “May the best memories of the past be the worst memories of your future.”
And with mine. “May we be friends until we are old and senile—then we’ll be new friends.”
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